The summer before my last kid started his Senior Year of high school, I started making plans for my next phase of life. I understood that my parenting role was going to change significantly, my available time would increase, my husband and I would be together much more, and I had an opportunity to be just me again. Nothing goes as planned :) My dad got sick. I took on physical support of my dad (appointments, meals, etc ...) and emotional support of my mom. My kids came home -- ALOT. My parents were our primary daycare, so my kids are especially close to their grandparents. They spent their time visiting hospital rooms. My husband got grouchy. He really missed the kids and due to his own health challenges, couldn't return to his previous interests as easily as I could (softball, playing in a rock band, etc ...) But I was determined to learn about me again and build a future even in present chaos. That included journaling, counseling, reconnecting to friends, taking a class, trying new things, and basically BEING BRAVE !