Kids do not usually come to you and ask advice, but is that really unusual? Think back to when you were a kid. What did you do when you needed help? Have a meltdown or tantrum? Maybe talked to a friend, kept it to yourself or wrote it in your journal? So how can a parent talk to a child if they do not know they need their help? Sometimes there are clues in behavior patterns with kids, but most times, you have to jump in the deep end and just start talking. Tell them about something that happened to you and your experiences at their same age. Even if they just life and say it is irrelevant, they will have heard you and sometimes, that is all you need. Want to dive deeper into this topic of how to deal with the distance between parents and pre-teen or teenagers - we can find some ideas to talk about here.