I was adopted and had a lovely upbringing. Also, I was told as a child that I had another mother - so as I grew up, I realized that there was a biological connection that my parents knew. I never felt deceived by that truth, but it did not stop me from wondering about my biological mom. As a young teenager, I thought of how would my biological parent handle this, certainly she could understand me more and of course, why did she choose to give me away. As I grew into an adult, my parents told me more about my birth mother, letting me know that she had asked them to not tell me about her until I had graduated. At twenty years old, my initial meeting with my biological mother was a disaster - a far cry from what I had romanticized in my head. Years later, she asked to come into my life, I was hesitant but it was my mom who raised me that encouraged me to embrace the offer. Sometimes life is not as we imagine or fantasize. Maybe you can share your story - sometimes it is nice to vent.