I grew up in a not-emotionally-healthy family, and got into an emotional abusive relationship at the beginning of high school. In my 20's, I married him and turned to alcohol to cope, with disastrous and shame-filled consequences. In my 30's, I got sober, had a baby, and got divorced., Now after about 20 years of therapy, cultivating a meditation practice, and exploring 12-step fellowships, I'm in a happy 2nd marriage with another baby on the way and my life is peaceful.