Before finding my husband, I dated around in NYC for ten years. He was different from the guys I usually went for, but our conversations were seamless. After the first date I knew all the years of figuring it out had been worth it. I understand first hand how difficult dating to find love can be, especially in a city where there are so many options to choose from. Despite it all, I never gave up on finding my person and learned so much about myself along the way. Dating to find love requires an incredible amount of vulnerability and self reflection. In our modern age many people are giving up and resorting to AI companions, but what this does is further the loneliness epidemic and sabotage our emotional capacity. Love is finding someone to challenge you and help you grow, as you reciprocate the same to them. By holding tight to your own beliefs and only welcoming people(or bots) into your life that validate that, we are robbing ourselves of deeper connection and understanding.

I know what it’s like to want connection but feel like the usual relationship “rules” just don’t work for your brain or your life. I’ve navigated everything from open relationships to heartbreak, queerness to complicated family dynamics, and the constant push-pull between wanting to belong and wanting to be real. If you’re neurodivergent, autistic, ADHD, whatever flavor, you’re probably used to masking, managing other people’s expectations, and feeling like relationships just…aren’t built for how your brain works. You deserve relationships that fit you, not ones that fit everyone else’s mold. Let’s talk honestly about what actually works, what doesn’t, and how to build connections (romantic or not) that are safe, fulfilling, and true to who you are. No shame, no judgment..just real talk and real support. I'm safe, affirming of all types of relationships.

I’ve been married for over a decade, but my partner and I have been together for more than 20 years. Therapy has been a huge help in improving our communication and navigating tough times. I also helped a close friend through a painful moment when they discovered their partner’s emotional affair. It was a shock for them, feeling like they weren’t enough, and they were ready to walk away. I encouraged them to take a step back, process their emotions, and focus on what they needed in the relationship. Through open conversations, they were able to understand that the affair was a symptom of deeper issues, not a reflection of their worth. Eventually, they chose to rebuild their trust and work through it together. They’re in a stronger place now.