I understand the deep, complex pain of relationships that feel like they're breaking or have already broken. I know what it's like to feel 'stuck,' going back and forth on an impossible decision about a long-term, difficult partnership. I also know the profound, isolating grief of a painful family estrangement. It's a loneliness and confusion that's hard to describe. I created this space because I'm in it. I've had to learn how to set the hardest boundaries, cope with the uncertainty, and begin to find a way to bounce back and build a new life for myself. This is a safe space to process it all, without judgment."

I went through a whirlwind of life transitions, including raising my daughter alone through to adulthood, facing the empty nest, returning to college, and pursuing my Bachelor's and Master's degrees, as well as a graduate certificate. I was navigating extreme change from dyeing my hair fun colors and exploring dating to marrying and separating in a blink of an eye. I know what it feels like to hit the reset button, no matter your age. Suddenly, I found my way back to myself. Let's work together to embrace your next pivot and build resilience when life feels like it's spinning out of control.

I had gotten myself into a relationship with a person who was sober, on house, arrest, and was going through the cycle of wanting to be better. And one snowy night I had found them passed out unknown what happened until they took my partner to the hospital, and I had found the bottle of vodka hiding from that relationship. I was the soul caretaker of someone who is suffering from. SUD. The relationship lasted 2 1/2 years and it was very codependent from me making sure that they were OK and for them having me as the caretaker there was abuse in the relationship from someone who did not want to get help I was able to leave that relationship completely heartbroken and tornand took time to grieve my own expectations from this person. I removed myself from my environment and started my healing journey while they got into another relationship while we were still together technically, I found myself now better because I was able to have the support from my friends to leave.

I have had to learn to navigate different relationships throughout the years, including familial, work, friend and romantic relationships. Through my experience, along with my training as a life coach with a concentration in relationships, I have come to find that there are a number of aspects that contribute to the health and wellbeing of a relationship. I am here to assist with those aspects, including setting and upholding boundaries, healthy communication, showing care, expressing your desires for care and love, dealing with conflict in relationships, and even breakups. Whatever the case may be, I'm here to help and support you in navigating your relationships.

Being an adult child of divorce, i fully understand what divorce does not to the family, but to the children involved. I know what it is like to experience parental alienation in the eyes of children, and i know what it feels like to feel torn between households once the divorce is completed.

Most people don’t understand how deep the loss of a sibling cuts. I do. I lost my favorite sibling, my big brother. My favorite person! It's not just the death of a brother or sister, it’s the loss of shared history, identity, inside jokes, and the future you imagined with them in it. Whether the relationship was close, complicated, or both, I know what it’s like to carry that grief while the world keeps moving. I want you to feel grounded by the reminder that your grief doesn’t have to follow anyone else’s timeline. Also, it's okay to sit in discomfort, to not have the words, and to simply miss them. If you’re grieving the loss of a sibling and feel unseen or unsupported in your pain, let’s talk. You don’t have to grieve alone.

There are days I’ve felt like my struggles meant I wasn’t enough as a parent or a wife or both. That guilt can be suffocating, but I’ve learned that honesty and repair matter more than perfection. I'm less of a hurricane to my family now and more of a weatherman. I can't always stop the rain but i can at least warn you when it's coming.

I used to find myself in relationships where I would constantly prioritize others’ needs over my own, always trying to make sure everyone around me was happy, even at the cost of my own well-being. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was caught in a cycle of codependency and people-pleasing. It wasn’t until I started recognizing the unhealthy patterns in my relationships that I began to see how much they were holding me back. This realization came slowly. I started working on myself, breaking free from toxic environments and relationships, and focusing on the life I wanted to build. I found that understanding my own attachment style and learning about healthy boundaries helped me stop falling into those old patterns. I became aware of what was destructive—both in my romantic and platonic relationships—and made healthier choices for myself and those around me. I’ve experienced these challenges firsthand and, through a lot of hard work and self-discovery, I’ve learned how to create and maintain stronger, healthier relationships. I’m now in a place where I don’t rely on unhealthy attachments or behaviors to define my relationships. I can see myself and others more clearly, and I want to help anyone who is struggling with the same issues.

After losing the love of my life, I realized this grief was different from previous losses. It felt like my life was a beautiful vase shattered into a hundred pieces. I tried to pick them up and put them back together, but I couldn’t do it alone. Some pieces were too far away, others didn’t fit, and I was frustrated and in despair. That’s when I accepted the love and help offered by those around me. Others could reach pieces I could not and helped me fit them back together. Together, we created a new vase—different but functional and ready to be used again. I learned not to be too proud to accept help because I wouldn’t have gotten up without it. Wisdom, I found, is simply knowledge gained through life’s hardest experiences. Prior to the death of my Wife, I had experienced the loss of my parents and other close family members. But they were no more than a punch in the gut. You fall down, sit for a bit, get up and go again. My Wifes loss was completely different. It was as if my life was a beautiful vase that had fallen to the floor and shattered into a hundred pieces. I had to sit down and try gathering the pieces and try putting them back together again. Needless to say, I could not seem to do it by myself. Some pieces were too far away. I could not figure out how to make other pieces fit together. i was frustrated and in despair but that is when i realized how much love and help i had around me and I accepted this gift. Some people could reach the pieces that i could not reach and brought them back to me. Others had the ability to fit pieces back together that i could not do. By drawing on our strengths together we were able to create a new vase which is functional and ready for use again. Do not ever be too proud to accept the help that good people want to shelter you with. I would have not been able to get off the floor again if it wasn't for the help and love given to me by others. Wisdom is nothing more than knowledge gained through life's experiences.

It was just my mom and me—she was my person. When she was diagnosed with rare cancer in 2016, we thought we’d beaten it. In 2018, she told me it had come back, but not how bad. She protected me even from the truth, right up until she couldn’t anymore. A week before she died, I took her to the hospital. I was still hoping she’d recover. Instead, a doctor told me, coldly, that the cancer had spread everywhere and they couldn’t save her. She was gone two days later. I planned the funeral alone, signed the paperwork alone, and somehow made it through those first weeks on autopilot. Then it hit—again and again. You don’t just grieve the person, you grieve the life you had with them. If you’ve lost your parent and had to hold everything together while breaking apart, I see you. I’ve lived it. The grief will still be there, but maybe I can help it feel less like it’s dragging you under & more like something you can carry, one moment at a time. Above all, you aren’t alone. I’m here to talk with you through the kind of grief that doesn’t have a neat beginning or end.

Relationships can be messy. I know this not just from training, but from my own life. I’ve navigated the ups and downs of dating with my own attachment wounds, struggled through communication breakdowns, and had to learn how to honor my needs while respecting someone else’s. That’s why I understand how heavy it can feel when your heart wants one thing, but your mind is full of questions and doubts. In this session, I’ll hold space for you the way I’ve needed others to hold space for me: with no judgment, just validation, compassion, and clarity. Whether you’re dealing with relationship anxiety, mismatched attachment styles, or feeling unseen in your connection, you don’t have to carry it alone. We’ll slow down, name what’s really going on, and help you leave with more peace and perspective.

With empathy born from personal experience, I’m a Peer Coach who has navigated the emotional terrain of divorce and found strength through sobriety—now guiding others along their journey to healing and growth. I understand the courage it takes to confront life’s toughest transitions, and I’m here to listen without judgment, share what’s worked for me, and celebrate every step forward. Grounded in transformative coaching principles, I offer a safe, collaborative space where healing meets practical strategies, so that together, we can co-create a path toward resilience, clarity, and renewed purpose. I bring a calm, non-judgmental presence that I hope will make you feel safe to open up. If you're ready to reshape your story into one of strength and self-discovery, I’d be honored to walk beside you.

One of the hardest things I have gone through in life was my divorce. My child was 11 years old at the time and I had been a stay-at-home mom. I now needed to find a job, a place for us to live, and navigate the world of single parenthood. Finances were obviously tight, and I wanted to make sure my kid had everything he needed and that I was still here for him. I felt completely lost and overwhelmed, and like I wouldn't be able to make it all work. Knowing my kid was relying on me forced me to get out of my head and focus on what was right in front of me. I got a job that worked around his schedule, found us a place to live, and focused on being the best mom I could be. Divorce is a scary and life-changing event, but it doesn't have to be something you can't recover from and come out even better as a person on the other side. Divorce allowed me to get to know myself again and find out how strong I was capable of being, something I had forgotten. Let's find your way through together.

My finalized divorce after 7 1/2 years of marriage felt like I slapped myself in the face with a brick. Not only were the typical financial and physical changes jarring, the emotional severance from the one I had deemed "my best friend forever," felt so immense. I was deeply lost, ashamed, and humiliated. Although I tried to "live well as the best revenge," I did not handle it well. I also did not have family or friends to turn to for help. Time ultimately helped and with the perspective of 27 years since then, I can still relate to anyone who is experiencing similar internal conflict. Divorce may be necessary, it may be "for the best," but it may also hurt like hell and feel extremely isolating. Sometimes all I needed was for someone to listen back then, and at a minimum, that's what I'll always be able to offer someone else.

Leaving or recovering from a toxic relationship can feel like you’ve lost yourself completely. I know the pain of questioning your worth, doubting your instincts, and carrying the weight of someone else’s manipulation. But I also know it’s possible to rise again. Through my own journey, I learned how to rebuild piece by piece while untangling my voice from theirs, releasing shame, and remembering my own strength. Healing isn’t about pretending it never happened; it’s about reclaiming your power and writing a new story. Now, I help others find that same clarity and courage so they can move forward with confidence, self-trust, and freedom.

Life has challenged me in many ways: navigating divorce, raising 2 children as a single parent, experiencing job loss, and facing burnout. There were times I felt overwhelmed and stuck, unsure how to move forward amid so much change. What helped me most were honest moments of being truly heard, developing steady wellness routines, and learning to be patient with myself through the process. My experience as a doctor and trained listener deepened my understanding of how powerful it is to simply show up with care and attention. Now, I want to offer that same steady, compassionate presence to anyone facing similar struggles. Whether it’s relationship changes, family transitions, career shifts, or the feeling of being stuck,- I’m here to listen, support, and help you find your way forward, one conversation at a time

Because I get it. I’ve been through the dark nights of fear, doubt, illness, and overwhelm. I know how it feels to hit rock bottom-and how powerful it is to rise.. I’m someone who has walked through the fire and come out stronger. After facing a life-threatening health scare, rebuilding my life, healing relationships, overcoming anxiety, and making powerful changes in my health and habits, I’ve learned what it takes to create lasting transformation from the inside out.

Life has taken me through many chapters: raising three young men (two of whom are neurodivergent), navigating a 20-year career as a special education teacher, surviving toxic, narcissistic relationships, and rebuilding after divorce. Along the way, I learned the importance of setting boundaries, choosing self-love, and letting go of habits that no longer served me—including a complicated relationship with alcohol. The journey hasn’t been easy, but it’s made me passionate about helping others find their voice, their peace, and their power again. Today, I live a nomadic life focused on healing, authenticity, and supporting others through their toughest seasons. I'm here to meet you exactly where you are—and to remind you that your healing is possible.

Hi, I’m Lola—a Life Coach, mom of three, and survivor of unhealthy relationships. I rebuilt my life through boundaries, self-love, and now I hold a safe, non-judgmental space for others ready to heal, reclaim their voice, and find peace.

I didn’t know what codependency was. I just believed taking care of others was who I had to be. As a child, keeping the peace and putting others first felt like my job. It was how I survived, so I never questioned it. I carried that into all my relationships, including my marriage, often with people who weren’t healthy for me. I kept giving and shrinking myself, thinking that’s what love meant. But not everyone expected that from me. Some allowed me to be my true self, the healthier version of me. My marriage showed me how much I was losing myself, but those healthier relationships reminded me who I really was. I realized I didn’t have to live in survival mode or keep attracting toxic and abusive relationships. I chose to rewrite my story for me and my children. The breaking point became my turning point. I started finding my voice and setting boundaries. I’m learning to support others without feeling like I have to fix them.