I was bullied for being Russian as kid, accused of being a Russian spy while serving in Peace Corps Ukraine in 2009, prior to any conflict, and questioned by Ukrainian authorities often and called a spy by Americans while volunteering in Ukraine in 2022-2025 during the current war. As a kid my immigrant parents did not believe that I had ADHD and told me I was lazy despite me telling them I was pretty sure I had it. Later in life I was diagnosed. My best friend from high school killed himself on New Years Eve when I was in my mid 20s. And a few years later a close friend of both of ours overdosed on heroin. I survived cancer in my late 20s. I have no hair in my wedding photos. Had to quit smoking as a result as well. I was also a child protective worker in NYC for 5 years and suffered from burnout and second-hand trauma. I quit my job and blew up my life. I have had a few different experiences, some more intense than others, and have healed from everything I listed above.